The Man in Your Child’s Life

The Man in Your Child's LifeAs fathers we are concerned about having our automobiles checked over before going on a long trip. The reason is the danger to our families of traveling in an automobile, which has some dangerous malfunctioning part.I wonder if it is not also important for us as fathers to stop occasionally and take a look at ourselves in the role of father. What I am saying is that it would do us well to have a “Fathering Check-up”. While doing some reading recently I came across the following list of questions to help us do just that.

(1) Am I spending time with my children? Quality time? Is it enough?

(2) When did I last sit on the floor with my youngster? How often do I do it?

(3) Do I listen to my child? Do I share my ideas so he or she can understand them?

(4) What principles do I follow? Where have I seen these lived out?

(5) What attitudes and qualities necessary for successful personal relations will my children have gained from me by the time they leave home?

(6) In what aspect of fathering am I most comfortable? In what facet of fathering am I most failing?

(7) What experiences do I cherish most? What memories do I want to plan for before my child leaves home?

Whoever the man is in your child’s life, father, grandfather, uncle, cousin, older brother, or adult male friend, they will have a profound impact on the child’s life. That person will influence a girl’s future relationship with men, and a boy’s ability to talk about issues of personal concern with other males. He will affect the growing child’s attitude toward money, responses to authority, feeling about competition, habits and attitudes in the area of sex, and identity within the work world. The most important thing he will instill in the child’s heart is their attitude toward Almighty God.

Will he be like Abraham? (Gen.18:19) For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.

Will he be like Eli? (1 Sam.3:13) For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knoweth; because his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them not.

If the man in your child’s life sees himself only as a provider, or caretaker, and not as a nurturer, the effect can be devastating on girls, and limiting on boys. As we men attempt to incorporate more nurturing characteristics into our fathering, a check-up may be helpful in assessing our progress.                       (Bill Oliver adapted)

I Cannot Say

file0001350576086• I cannot say “our” if I live only for myself.

• I cannot say “Father” if I do not endeavor each day to act like his

• I cannot say “in heaven” if I am laying up no treasure there.

• I cannot say “hallowed be your name” if I am not striving for

• I cannot say “your will be done” if I am disobedient to his word.

• I cannot say “on earth as it is in heaven” if I’ll not serve him here and now.

• I cannot say “give us today our daily bread” if I am dishonest or seeking things by subterfuge.

• I cannot say “forgive us our debts” if I harbor a grudge against

• I cannot say “lead us not into temptation” if I deliberately place myself in its path.

• I cannot say “deliver us from evil” if I do not put on the whole armor of God.

• I cannot say “yours is the kingdom” if I do not give the King the loyalty due Him from a faithful subject.

• I cannot attribute to Him “the power” if I fear what men may do.

• I cannot ascribe to Him the glory if I’m seeking honor only for

• I cannot say “forever” if the horizon of my life is bounded completely by time.

• And I cannot say “Amen” if I do not live this way.


(Author Unknown)

God and the Geese

God and the GeeseThere was once a man who didn’t believe in God, and he didn’t hesitate to let others know how he felt about religion and religious holidays. His wife however, did believe, and she raised their children to also have faith in God and Jesus, despite his disparaging comments. One snowy Eve, his wife was taking their children to service in the farm community in which they lived. They were to talk about Jesus’ birth. She asked him to come, but he refused. “This story is nonsense!” he said. “Why would God lower Himself to come to earth as a man? That’s ridiculous!” So she and the children left, and he stayed home. A while later, the winds grew stronger and the snow turned into a blizzard. As the man looked out the window, all he saw was a blinding snowstorm. He sat down to relax before the fire for the evening. Then he heard a loud thump. Something had hit the window. Then another thump. He looked out, but couldn’t see more than a few feet. When the snow let up a little, he ventured outside to see what could have been beating on his window. In the field near his house he saw a flock of wild geese. Apparently they had been flying south for the winter when they got caught in the snowstorm and couldn’t go on. They were lost and stranded on his farm, with no food or shelter. They just flapped their wings and flew around the field in low circles, blindly and aimlessly. A couple of them had flown into his window, it seemed.


The man felt sorry for the geese and wanted to help them. The barn would be a great place for them to stay, he thought. It’s warm and safe; surely they could spend the night and wait out the storm. So he walked over to the barn and opened the doors wide, then watched and waited, hoping they would notice the open barn and go inside. But the geese just fluttered around aimlessly and didn’t seem to notice the barn or realize what it could mean for them.