Options That Married People Do NOT Have

Options That Married People Do NOT HaveWhen two people are married legally (according to the civil laws they live under, (Rom. 13:1-7), and in the eyes of God (according to the law of God who originated marriage, Gen. 2:18-24; Rom. 7:2-3; Matt. 5:32; 19:3-6, 9 — and the law of God supersedes the ordinances of men), they often vow to love, honor, and cherish one another for better or worse, in sickness and in health, and in prosperity and in adversity until death parts them. In fact, whether such vows are made a part of the wedding ceremony or not, such obligations inhere in the marriage relationship, and husbands and wives are expected by God to live up to them.

So many couples, both young and old, think they just have to get married (and they are in such an emotional romantic mood that hardly anyone can talk them out of it), but they (either both of them or one of them) soon decide that they don’t have to (or should that be “want to”) stay married. But God has given them no such option! Jesus said, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matt. 19:6).

Some decide that they want a divorce from a mate because they are “no longer in love” with that mate. They should have been certain about their love before the marriage. And they need to know that God commands husbands and wives to love one another, Eph. 5:25, 28, 33; Titus 2:4 (and these passages were written during a time that in many cultures parents arranged the marriages of their children). Husbands and wives do not have the option of deciding to stop loving one another.

Some decide that they want a divorce because a mate has contracted a debilitating disease or has been paralyzed by an accident. They don’t want to be tied down by “a cripple,” but God has not given them that option. The unfortunate mate needs them more than ever, and they need to show the nobility of their love, their character, and their commitment.

Some decide that they want a divorce because they have found someone else that they “truly love” (or like better), someone who also shows greater love for them (their perception) than their mate. But what kind of person would become romantically involved with another man’s wife or another woman’s husband? Could such a person ever be trusted as a husband or a wife? (And could they be trusted?) But, again, God did not give them any such option. Marriage is for life, and not “until you find someone you like better.”

Some decide that they want a divorce because they “just don’t get along well” with their mate, or they “really weren’t ready for such a commitment,” or they have found that “they are no longer compatible” with their mate, or they “don’t feel loved and important,” or they “argue all the time,” etc., but God has given them no such option. Grow up, mature, get help, but work out your problems. The majority of divorced and remarried people admit that they were better off in their first marriage than they realized.

Marriage is of God; He who originated it has a right to regulate it. He has done so in the Bible, the revelation of Himself and His will for mankind. God’s plan is one man and one woman for life with one exception. That one exception is fornication (sexual immorality). The innocent and faithful mate has been given the right (not the duty) to divorce the guilty mate [and] marry another. The guilty mate has been given no such right.

When two people marry, they have entered a serious relationship. Both need to be sure that they are both ready for such a commitment. People may change their minds and go back on their promises, but God’s law does not change.

Bill Crews

Several Strange Facts About God’s Word

Several Strange Facts About God’s WordThere are 66 books, 1,189 chapters, 31,173 verses, 773,692 words and 3,566,490 letters in the Bible. In the Old Testament there are 39 books, 929 chapters, 23,214 verses, 592,439 words and 2,728,110 letters; and in the New Testament, 27 books, 260 chapters, 7,959 verses, 181,253 words and 838,380 letters.

The shortest and the middle chapter in the Bible is Psalm 117. The middle verse of the Bible is Psalm 118:8. The word “and” occurs in the Old Testament 35,543 times. The same word occurs in the New Testament 6,853 times. The word “Jehovah” occurs 6,858 times.

The middle book of the New Testament is 2 Thessalonians. The middle of the chapters of the New Testament is between the thirteenth and fourteenth chapters of Romans. The middle verse of the New Testament is Acts 17:17.

The shortest verse in the New Testament and in the Bible is John 11:35. Ezra 7:21 has all the letters of the alphabet except j. There are several passages of some length alike, as Isaiah 37 is like 2 Kings 19.

(Author Unknown)


ALL THAT GLITTERS IS NOT GOLDMany years ago, my brothers and I went to New York City. We arrived very early in the morning. We could not wait to get our bags into our room and get our first look at Times Square. I shan’t soon forget the sight. It was as if we were immersed in a sea of lights. There were lights that cascaded like water falls, lights that sparkled like Christmas, lights that wrote messages, lights that twinkled.

There were pulsating lights, performing lights, lights that made little paths around huge pictures of people. The scene seemed to take you along with it, whether you wanted to go or not. It was as if you were in a current the strength of which was so overpowering you had no resistance.

Society is like those lights. It has a strong attraction. It pulls people with great subtlety. You’re caught up in the flow of it before you know it; and when you’re in the flow, it takes great power – more than most of us have – to dislodge yourself. With its various methods of seduction, society invites us into the slime pit of sin. It accomplishes this by making sin attractive. If sin were left to its own, nobody would get involved in it. It promises things; it holds out a certain satisfaction. Sin is never presented to you in its bare form. It’s always dressed up in something. And the trappings are well thought out. The Devil is a master of disguises. He conjures up all manner of packages in which to place this most deadly enemy of mankind. When he has it just right he presents it with deadly skill. You can be in it before you know it.